UNC beat NC State in a boring game, so here’s some non-basketball thoughts

In planning out my “non-basketball game recap” of my first ever trip to PNC Arena for a basketball game and my first ever UNC vs. NC State basketball game, it’s hard not to get the uncomfortable part out of the way first. There was a very inappropriate exchange between an NC State fan and a UNC fan. The UNC fan happens to be a pretty well-known radio personality in North Carolina, so of course it’s going to get some run. It deserved run anyway.

To set the scene, NC State jumped out to a big early lead. Fans were excited. UNC came back, took a nice of their own, State fans were frustrated. UNC fans were excited. Especially B Daht, a radio host on 102 Jamz, sitting one row behind the UNC bench and four rows in front of the NC State fan in question. B Daht was there to cheer on his team, but was also absolutely there to interact with State fans. Fans trash talk, and that’s fine. That’s how the exchange started between these two. That fairly quickly devolved into the “CHEATERS” taunt from the State fan (again, completely fair), and the “We’re not cheaters. Prove it.” response from the UNC fan (also totally fair). I couldn’t hear what said next, but B Daht’s face absolutely went from friendly to hurt. “I’ve got two kids. Two. With my wife.” he said, pointing at his wedding ring. We later learned from his Instagram that the State fan asked him how many illegitimate kids he had.

Before moving on, I’ll editorialize a bit. This is not an NC State specific issue. Don’t make it that. If you’re so inclined to do so, let’s revisit the “go back to the ghetto” taunt in Chapel Hill while Maryland celebrated on the Dean Dome floor. It cheapens the discussion and makes it a rivalry thing instead of an actual problem. So if you’re throwing out “Redneck U” barbs, realize you’re perpetuating the problem. Do not take your emotions as a fan, frustrated or excited, and channel them towards someone personally. Be respectful of people. In everything.

I’d also like to call out that B Daht handled the situation about as well as anyone could have. His response to the State fan was honest, direct, and delivered in a way that it was very clear that his feelings were hurt. Because of it, the State fan picked up on how he crossed the line, and he sat down and didn’t say much of anything to anyone for the rest of the game. It could have escalated into something even uglier, and it didn’t. Honestly, it was downright impressive how he confronted the guy and ended the conversation before it got any worse. Not to give any credit to the State fan where it’s not deserved, but I will say he did a good job of knowing that he a took an L. I doubt his wrongheaded views were changed in any way, but at least he sat down and shut up.

I will say that this was the only interaction between NC State and UNC fans that I even noticed last night. I came in expecting the worst, but it was an incredibly civil environment, beyond that ugly incident. State fans were 99% enjoyable to be around. Of course, that 1% is enough to ruin the entire experience for someone, but I made sure to soak in everything I saw. A few observations below: